There is a fine line between trying not to spoil your children and breaking their hearts...I crossed that line today. Today was the silent auction and all in all it was a success; money was raised for the school and we managed to get rid of everything. CJ had been in a bidding war with someone else for a Candy Bouquet but today somebody outbid him. And I didn't up that bid for CJ. I knew he would be upset, but I thought it would be for his own good because:
a) Chocolate is contraband in our house and which would be worse - CJ on chocolate or CJ upset about not getting chocolate
b) Children need to learn they don't always get what they want and
c) AJ bid on a 5 lb chocolate bar and won and will be sharing it with his brothers
So that's where we're at now. I feel like a shoe. Or a heel. Or whatever. I just feel really really bad. If CJ hadn't eaten all of my peanut butter last week, I'd tear off a big hunk of that chocolate bar and have myself a real good pity party. Instead, I'll just go fill-up on Chinese Food. Husband thinks I did the right thing and is even questioning why I feel bad about it. Must be a girl thing I guess. I know he'll get over it but in the meantime, I have a new shelf that I bought at the auction that my Bad Mom Award will look awesome on.
Update
The child who actually won the candy bouquet is a buddy of CJ's and called to tell him he won. I think he was nervous calling. CJ was thrilled to get a phone call and the child asked if he would like something from the bouquet. CJ asked for a sucker. And with that his mood completely changed and he's my happy boy again. The child is actually over here for a play date this afternoon and they are having a great time.
So I overreacted yesterday. But its so difficult sometimes knowing beforehand how a situation will turn out. You just have to make the decision you think is best at the time and hope your children don't hate you too much for it.
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